By janitzearratia on Skatehive
__ >The problem with expectations, is not what we think. Today I want to tell you about something we needed to hear and didn't know about. The problem is not to have expectations, the networks have turned this concept into an enemy, as if it were something totally voluntary and conscious that we do, when it is not so. Expectations are often unconscious and respond to many factors. The problem we do have is creating them on the wrong people or at the least appropriate time. It's normal to expect things from others, let's stop demonizing that, the problem is when I expect from you what you can't give me. You may even want to give it to me and you won't make it, then… It's time to think, can the other person give me what I'm hoping for? And if the answer is no can I adjust what I expect? Because if I don't adjust what I want, knowing that it's impossible, I condemn myself to suffer or I have to take responsibility for making a decision, changing the person from whom I hope to receive it.